Warning Signs of a Battering Personality

Jealousy

An abuser will say that jealousy is a sign of love, but jealousy has nothing to do with Love.

It's a sign of possessiveness and lack of trust.

Controlling Behavior

He or she may tell you what to do, who you can be with.

You may have to ask for permission for everything you do.

Quick Involvement

He or she comes on like a whirlwind claiming you’re the only one for him and that he or she can never talk to any others.

Unrealistic Expectations

He or she will expect you to meet all their needs.

He or she will expect you to be the perfect woman, mother, lover, and friend.

Isolation

He or she will try to keep you from having friends, going to work or even going to school.

He or she will tell you everyone in your life is a troublemaker trying to keep you from having any support.

Blames Others for Problems

He will tell the woman she is at fault for almost anything that goes wrong.

Blames Others for Feelings

He or she will say "You made me mad".

"I wouldn't be angry if you would just do what I want you to do"

Hypersensitivity

He or she is easily offended, pessimistic, everything and everyone in life is out to get him or her.

Cruelty to Animals or Children

He or she may throw kittens at the wall, or tease children until they cry.

Use of Force in Sex

He or she may like to throw the partner down or hold her or him down during sex.

May get excited by rape.

Verbal Abuse

He or she will say things that are cruel and hurtful. (degrading, cursing, constantly running the person down)

Rigid Sex Roles

He or she may have rigid ideas of a persons place in life, may make the woman stay home, clean, cook, etc.

He or she will see the other person as inferior, responsible for menial tasks, stupid, unable to be a whole person.

Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

Sudden mood changes, explosiveness.

****Past Battering****

He or she may say he or she has hit people in the past, but it was never the abusers fault.

** Threats of Violence**

Any threat of physical force "I'll kill you" or "I'll break your neck"

Breaking or Striking Objects

This is used to terrorize others into submission

Any Force During an Argument

Holding a person down to keep her from leaving. pushing, shoving.

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